Most religious people claim that it is a sin to masturbate. The churches and religions of mankind teach that it is a sin. Many men have written me with their testimonies of struggles with trying to stop masturbating. Is that really necessary to stop? Is it really a sin in GOD's eyes? What does the bible say about it?
Whether I say that it is a sin, or whether I say that it is NOT a sin, either way, there will be people, both male & female, who read this article and IMMEDIATELY disagree. Therefore, I must ask that you do not read this article for the purpose of seeing whether or not that I have the truth on this issue, but rather read this article as a test to see if your opinion (& what you have been taught) correctly lines up with scripture and fact. There are literally thousands of sects (belief systems) in this world, and everyone believes that they are in the truth, but not everyone can be in the truth. Revelation 12:9 teaches that the devil has deceived the entire/whole world. There are almost 8 billion people on this planet Earth. And everyone of us have been deceived about something in our life. 1 Thes.5:21 teaches us to test/prove all things. NOT to just assume that we already know the truth. We must sincerely examine ourselves concerning what we believe and why. Please read this entire article before making a final decision. But first, please take time to pray before reading any further.
(Pause to pray for the real truth.)
First, let's examine the scriptures that most people use to try to claim that masturbation is a sin.
16 This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.
(People claim that masturbation is fulfilling the lust of the flesh, therefore is sin. However, you should allow the bible to define what it means by the phrase "lust of the flesh". The surrounding text, which is the context, usually defines what the verse is really talking about. So KEEP reading!)
17 For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.
18 But if ye be led of the Spirit, ye are not under the law.
19 Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,
20 Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies,
21 Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.
If you fulfill the lust of the flesh, that would be called "the works of the flesh", which the bible thereafter defines as adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like. Masturbation is not listed. Many people claim that masturbation would be in the categories of fornication, lasciviousness, Idolatry or "such like". But again, you should allow the bible to define those terms. DON'T ASSUME what the biblical meaning is! And don't go by the definitions that were taught to you by religious people. Instead, study the bible and allow the bible to define itself. You can read the entire bible from beginning to end, and you will NEVER find ANY verse that declares that masturbation is a sin. NEVER! When you look at EVERY verse that describes fornication, it is in the context of worshipping false gods, pagan practices, forsaking the commandments, forsaking GOD, or having sex with a type of person or animal that the bible expressly forbids. It NEVER says anything about a person rubbing or jacking their penis or other parts of their own body. The same is true for all of these other terms as well, it never defines it as masturbation or jacking off. So STOP making stuff up!
ACCEPTABLE LUSTS OF THE FLESH
Sex with your spouse is also a lust of the flesh. Yet that is fully acceptable according to scripture. Therefore, NOT ALL lust of the flesh is a sin. A man having sex with his wife is NOT a sin, although it is a lust of the flesh. A woman having sex with her husband is a lust of the flesh, but not a sin.
A person could also say that eating, or having an appetite is a lust of the flesh. But it is a GOD given lust/appetite/desire and physical need. The fact is that the human body was created to have sex. It is designed that way. It is truly NEEDFUL for a man to have sex. The appetite for sex is as real, and just as much GOD designed, as the other natural need of having food to eat. So we cannot assume that masturbation is a sin JUST because it is a lust. NOT all lust is sin.
THE MAN THAT SPILLED HIS SEED
8 And Judah said unto Onan, Go in unto thy brother's wife, and marry her, and raise up seed to thy brother.
9 And Onan knew that the seed should not be his; and it came to pass, when he went in unto his brother's wife, that he spilled it on the ground, lest that he should give seed to his brother.
10 And the thing which he did displeased the Lord: wherefore he slew him also.
Many people try to use these verses in Genesis 38 as evidence that spilling your sperm on the ground, or jacking off, is a sin. But the man in these verses was not masturbating! He had real sex with a woman! It was NOT masturbation. He simply pulled out and shot his cum on the ground. There is no way that anyone can correctly and righteously use this as "proof" that it's wrong to masturbate. It has NOTHING to do with masturbation! STOP TWISTING SCRIPTURE! The sin was only that he disobeyed the will of THE LORD and that he did NOT obey the law of marrying his brother's wife after his brother died. Some people would say "BUT, he must have jacked off for a few seconds to get this sperm on the ground". Well, that's an assumption. It's very possible that he only just rolled over and came on the ground. Even if he did jack it for a few seconds, that's not what GOD got upset about! COME ON PEOPLE! The next assertion is that these verses prove that GOD wants men to cum ONLY inside a woman. And I would agree that is the best way! And GOD's most desired way. But we cannot ASSUME that is why GOD was angry, when in fact, we know that the reason HE got angry is because Onan disobeyed the law of GOD and the command of Judah. STOP MAKING ASSUMPTIONS! Never base your interpretation of scripture on ONLY ONE VERSE. You need to read the entire bible and compare every verse that has anything to do with the subject or the word/phrase. We do NOT have ANY other example of GOD getting angry when a man spilled his sperm/seed/cum on the ground. So we cannot teach something that we cannot verify via another verse, because if you do base your doctrine on only one verse, you are most likely NOT correct! Others verses must confirm the meaning, so that you do NOT assume things or interpret wrongly. Whereas we CAN find verses requiring a man to take/marry his brother's wife.
FOR THE GLORY OF GOD
1 Cor. 10:31 "Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God."
This is the most insane reasoning I have ever seen for trying to claim that masturbation is a sin! Do EVERYTHING for the glory of GOD! When we go take a dump in the toilet, do we do that for the Glory of GOD? NO! When we go piss, do we do that for the glory of GOD? NO! When we have sex with our wife? NO! You might say "Yes" or "We should". But the fact remains, NO, when we lust after our wife and want to insert our penis into her and go in and out and pump it slow, or fast and hard, the LAST thing we are thinking about is GOD! And if you are thinking about GOD while you are pumping your wife, I think you are SICK! You can consider Job, Abraham, Noah, Moses or any other TRUE man of GOD in the bible and I guarantee you that they did NOT pump their wives for the glory of GOD. Perhaps some exceptions, but overall, NO! We pump because we want to! Because we feel GOD given lust! And because it FEELS GOOD! That's why we do it!
Colossians 3:17 "And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him."
When you go to the toilet and take a big dump, Do you do it in the name of THE LORD? NO! So we cannot use these verses in a such an insanely literal way as to command that EVERYTHING must be done in the name of the LORD or for the glory of Jesus. It's disgusting how some wimpy boys (who think they are men) are abusing these HOLY scriptures to try to validate their extreme religious legalism!
THE BIBLE GIVES US DETAILED LISTS OF SINS
The bible tells us that homosexuality is a sin. It says that sex with an animal is sin. Adultery is sin. Having sex with your dad's wife is a sin. Having sex with your daughter is a sin. Having sex with your sister is a sin. Etc. Etc. Etc. It lists thousands of sins. The bible is very extensive and detailed. But there is NOT any verse in the bible that says that masturbation is sin!
CAUTION: PORNOGRAPHY IS A SIN
It is a sin to look at pornography. Because when we look at pornography/porn, we are watching married people have sex. All women and all men in porn are married, because the bible teaches that people are married starting with the very moment that they first have sex. (Click here for proof.) So those women are married to the men they have sex with in the movies and magazines. It is sin to watch other people have sex. So it would be wrong to masturbate while looking at porn. But only because it is porn and it is adultery to watch people have sex. Therefore, when you masturbate, you MUST NOT look at porn, and you must NOT think about any married woman (except your wives), nor about any girl/woman who is in a sexual relationship. When you masturbate, you should think ONLY about how good it feels or about imaginary women who do NOT exist, or about virgin women or about your wives. It is acceptable to masturbate to the thoughts of virgin women who are old enough for sex, but are still virgins. It is acceptable to masturbate to thoughts of women who are NOT virgins if the woman is acceptable in the eyes of GOD for marriage or remarriage. It is acceptable to "make up" images (in your mind) of females that do not really exist. It's acceptable to think about your wives. But do NOT EVER look at pictures/movies/films/images of underage people, nor of grown women who are having sex, or of grown women who are married in the eyes of GOD. Also, do NOT look at porn cartoons, because many of those images are drawn by married women, and some of the images could be of real people.
BOYS START YOUNG BY INSTINCT
Boys naturally begin to masturbate at a VERY early age, even before they can ejaculate. If they reach 16 and are NOT masturbating to the thoughts of girls, something is very seriously wrong! They are not holy men, they are not righteous. What they are, are immature & oppressed men who have been slapped and verbally abused for doing what was natural when they were younger, and taught that their body and their instincts and natural desires are dirty, nasty and sinful. Such parents that abuse their children in the form of religious, legalistic oppression should be arrested! Let your boys be boys! Tell them that masturbation should be done only in the privacy of their bedrooms and bathroom, and that pornography is forbidden. But do NOT slap them, do NOT slap their hands and do NOT teach them that their natural instinct is wrong! The penis is there for more than just peeing! Let boys be boys, so that they can become men!
TO EXERCISE NATURAL HUMAN INSTINCT & BODY NEEDS WITHOUT ARREST
Male and female body parts were created to be used in sex beginning at puberty. In the bible, God's chosen people were having sex at young ages. The male & female bodies are BOTH capable of doing their parts of reproducing (having babies) beginning at the age of puberty. GOD created our bodies that way. But modern laws in western nations forbid teenagers from having sex. Therefore the only way for them to have sex without being arrested is to masturbate. The only solution physically is for the boys to jack off to release the build up of their ejaculation fluids. Most boys ages 9-16 have "wet dreams" (nocturnal emissions) which naturally release their semen while they sleep. This is a natural response of the body to get rid of what MUST be gotten rid of. But men should NOT be having wet dreams beyond the age of what is now considered in the modern western world as the age of adulthood, 18-21. Men should not have to deal with the nasty feeling of cum all over themselves when they wake up! What about if they are in the military, or sharing a college dorm, or motel room with other guys? What if they wake up with cum all over their shorts and the blanket pulled off in bed and their roommates see that he is STILL having wet dreams as an adult! HOW EMBARRASING! And not only with adult men, but even as young men 9-18 years old, when they stay overnight with their buddies from school, etc. Should they be living in fear of what they buddies will see in the morning? These young men should be taught that they CAN jack off BEFORE bedtime so that they WON'T wake up soaked in front of their friends.
Besides disabilities of the hips, legs, torso, back, vaginal, etc, there might be a problem of his/her extreme level of exhaustion, which hinders them from full intercourse or oral sex. Masturbation can possibly take less time, less energy and less effort than oral sex or intercourse. A quick jack off might be the only real option for their situation. Let the couple decide. Stay out of their bedroom business! Don't tell a man or woman what they can and cannot do in the privacy of their own home! It is HIS penis, not yours! Stop controlling another man's penis and take care of your own!
WOMEN LOSE ALL TIGHTNESS AFTER HAVING BABY
After having a baby, the woman's vaginal is going to be really, really, really stretched! It varies between different women, but it's possible for some women to not return to their normal tightness for several months! And even if the woman has NOT had a baby, she can become very loose over time, and as she gets older, and especially if his penis is huge, and especially if he pumps hard and fast, and especially if they have sex with each other often. So as you can see, there are many reasons why a woman can become very loose. But the man's need to ejaculate still remains, even after he becomes older in his elder years. But intercourse might not be sufficient to get him off. Even if she does exercises to tighten herself, and even if they wait longer between sex, and even if he avoids fast, hard pumps that loosens her, he might not be able to ejaculate in her or on her. It's possible that even WITH intercourse, that he will NOT be able to empty his load, and he WILL need to masturbate to finish it off. This is EXTREMELY common. How dare ANYONE say that he is sinning! He is just finishing the job!
Also, men are forbidden by her doctor to have sex with the wife during the last days of pregnancy. There are many reasons and situations when men are not able to, or even forbidden, to have sex with their wives, but the man's need doesn't just vanish into thin air! His penis remains. His fluids remain. His hormones remain. Women + legalistic wimpy men would say that he must be patient and wait it out. BULL CRAP! His needs are just as important as her needs! And his body and his hormones are just as important as her hormones! GOD gave me a penis! GOD gave me fluids and hormones that must be exercised!
In our modern western society, we all have LOTS to do. Employment, taking care of the kids, paying attention to the children and pets, taking care of household chores and the lawn, the automobile, church, parents, friends, and the list goes on and on and on.....
Finding time to have real sexual intercourse can be difficult, and if time is found, the exhaustion level issue can come into consideration. Some times the best option for a man, especially if the wife is NOT in the mood, is to just masturbate quickly and get to sleep. At least, as an option for just occasionally. But more often if needed. Plus, in our modern western world, unfortunately, many women work outside of the home. When women work outside of the home, the family suffers. It's impossible for the woman to completely fulfill ALL of her GOD ordained responsibilities toward the husband, the children and the homestead. Being a wife and mother is a FULL time job. Women should NOT work outside of the home! Many times, a woman is working during the hours that the husband is home, thereby she is neglecting many of his needs and her children and house. Money is NOT the most important thing! She should be home with the children and husband. She should be cooking and cleaning. She should be teaching the children. She should be paying attention to her husband. This is the way that GOD intended. But in today's upside down society, men are left jacking off in an empty bed while the wife is at work acting like a man!
TESTICLE OR PROSTATE CANCER
According to Men's Health Magazine, "A 2004 study found that men who ejaculated more than 21 times a month reduced their risk of prostate cancer by roughly 33 percent, compared to guys who only did the deed four to seven times a month. In 2016, researchers followed up with that same group of guys from 2004 and found that those who ejaculated 8 to 12 times per month reduced their prostate cancer risk by 10 percent."
Read the article linked above for additional 4 HEALTH reasons to jack off!
ONLY ACCEPTABLE PURPOSE OF SEX IS TO REPRODUCE OR TO LOVE?
Many religious people claim that the only acceptable GOD ordained purposes of sex is having babies and to show each other love. But if that was true, and if a husband or wife was incapable of having children, then they would not be allowed to have sex with each other, other than for love. So reproduction is NOT the only reason for sex. But if you really believe that LOVE and reproduction are the ONLY reasons that a GODLY man has sex, then you are very naive/ignorant. GOD fearing, true Christian men DO ENJOY the feeling of sex and they are partially led by the sex hormones and GOD given lust. Therefore sex for enjoyment is very real and very acceptable, even with Christian people. We are human! It is unrealistic to expect or require a man or woman to NOT enjoy sex. GOD created our sexual parts in a way that makes it very enjoyable. GOD meant for it to be enjoyable. NOT just for love and reproduction. And sex for enjoyment can be enjoyed alone or with the spouse. There is absolutely NO reason why a man cannot masturbate in private, as long as porn is not involved and as long as his thoughts are NOT upon sinful/forbidden people/things/actions.
ABSENCE FROM HOME
Some times, men must leave their wives for several days, weeks or months due to jobs or the military. If you expect men to be away from their wives for 7 days, or 14 days, or 30 days, or several months or years WITHOUT ANY sex, you're crazy! Men away for work or military STILL have sexual needs! If you don't want him having forbidden homosexual sex, or having strange sex (one night stands), then you BETTER accept and even ENCOURAGE him to masturbate! Choose! Which one would you rather have him indulge in? He is going to be indulging in SOMETHING! That's reality! If you don't want him breaking GOD's law, you better accept him jacking off! If you are a wife, give your husband some pictures of you naked, maybe even some videos of you masturbating for him, or of the two of you having sex. This will help him to NOT need porn, homosexual encounters or strange women while he is on his journey. Men, you CAN ask for these things from your wives. But DON'T SHARE with your buddies! Respect your wife if she is cool enough to do these nice things for you!
IS IT ALSO ACCEPTABLE FOR WOMEN TO MASTURBATE?
Women should NEVER insert anything (hands, fingers, tampons, dildos, etc.) into their vagina but rather preserve the tightness for the man. Women should be married to a man and be fulfilling all of their sexual needs WITH their husband. I am sure that ANY woman, regardless of weight, size or looks, CAN find a man to appease them of their sexual needs. But it is MUCH more difficult for a man to find a woman who is willing to take care of their sexual needs. Men can masturbate because their male needs supersede the ability of women to fully fulfill the man's needs ALL of the time. Men are MUCH more sexually driven. Most women can not maintain their husband's passion. If you are a married woman whose husband is NOT fulfilling all of your sexual needs, I am sure that all that you need to do is to tell him your needs. I am SURE that he will go out of his way to help you meet your desired goals. A woman is submitted to the man. That's what the bible says and that's how GOD created it. If you don't like it, you can argue with GOD on Judgment Day when HE casts you into the Lake of Fire to annihilate your wicked butt! A woman needs to keep her vagina as tight as possible for her husband, instead of stretching it with anything. If you are stretching it, he is very likely to go to other women and perhaps even men to get his sexual needs fulfilled by something tighter! That's just the truth. So don't stretch it! That's the man's job to stretch it. But yes a woman CAN rub on the outside of her vagina, especially in view of her husband, to help turn him on. It's acceptable for a woman to masturbate the outer lips, while thinking of her husband who is about to come home and jump it! But don't stick any fingers in! That little bit of penetration can be enough to loosen it and spoil it for him.
Women can masturbate. But they must be extremely careful to preserve the tightness AND especially the virginity for their husband. And the woman should try her best to allow the man to fulfill ALL of her sexual needs, because he needs much more than she does, so all of her sexual needs should be allowed to be taken care of by him. If the man has less sexual desires than she does, due to low Testosterone, age, exhaustion or other reason, I am sure that the female can help him arouse his interest & his passion if she tries. She should be willing to make the first move. She can rub his back and chest and the front of his pants. She can perform oral sex. She can give him a show of her vagina. She can give him an alcohol drink if that helps. There are many ways that a woman can bring the wild man into action! If he is too exhausted, she should try to find ways to help relieve his busy schedule, and/or find ways to help boost his Testosterone levels. If his penis is too small to satisfy her inside, she can encourage him to satisfy her with other methods including him performing oral sex on her, and paying more attention to her nipples, etc while she masturbates in his presence. If his skill is not good, then maybe she can help teach him.
Women should also try to avoid letting doctors stick her hands and tools up inside of them. If the woman has a medical problem, a true NEED to allow the doctor to stick his hands or tools up into her, then that's acceptable. But if she is NOT having problems, there is really NO NEED! The ONLY person that is allowed to stick his fingers/hands and other things into a woman is her husband! A man should go into that doctor office and punch out that pervert! You KNOW that at the end of the day, that the male doctor is going home and masturbating to the image of your wife! YOU KNOW IT! And he is probably not even waiting until he gets home. He is probably jacking off 10 times per day in the bathroom or his office of the medical clinic. If you are going to ALLOW your woman to let a medical doctor look at her vagina, or stick hands or tools in, it better be a woman doctor!!!!
KJV: "And every man that striveth for the mastery is temperate in all things. Now they do it to obtain a corruptible crown; but we an incorruptible."
NASB: "Everyone who competes in the games exercises self-control in all things. They then do it to receive a perishable wreath, but we an imperishable."
Some people claim that "self-control" or "temperate" means to completely avoid ANY AND EVERY desire of the flesh. But that would include eating, singing, dancing, alcohol, sex with the spouse and many other things that the bible NEVER forbids. Actually, these verses teach us that we should exercise moderation. NOT the total rejection of life. Men should masturbate in moderation, which means that you should avoid jacking off TOO MUCH, and be very careful about where you do this, and also AVOID the porn dudes! Control yourself. Be careful where and when. DON'T do this in public! And learn to control your thoughts! I have already listed what is acceptable to think about and what is NOT acceptable to think about. Some people claim that it's impossible for a man to NOT think about porn or married women when they masturbate. And that's a lie! Little boys masturbate without having EVER seen any fully naked grown woman or any sexual act outside of his own body. There ARE some things that we CAN think about to help us accomplish our goal of release of pressure in our testicles and hormones and GOD given desires. So, our minds do NOT have to be completely blank. We can also think about our wives. But we must avoid jacking off several times per day. MANY men do masturbate several times per day, especially in the teenage years and 20's while our hormones are still at it's peak. And that's not too bad at that age, but we should, at ANY and EVERY age, try to limit the amount of times per day. And as we get pass our 20's, we especially need to get this under control to only 1-2 times per day at most. Ideally, almost every man needs and should eventually have a wife, as a helper, as a companion, as a friend, and as a sexual lover. Ideally, she should replace most of the masturbation. But as we have seen earlier in this article, there are MANY reasons why a man COULD have good reason to compensate in between times.
Of course, as I said, most men should have wives. But there are times when a man will NOT have a wife. Perhaps between the ages of 9-21, or after a divorce, or after his wife dies. But in ALL of these situations, he is STILL a man with a penis, testicles, semen/sperm, sexual hormones and sexual needs! If you don't want him going to a whore house or a prostitute on the street, or having one night stands, then you better accept that it is fully acceptable for single man to masturbate. NOT every man has a wife to help relieve his physical and emotionally/mental needs. Masturbation is healthy and natural, and HELPFUL.
WHY I WROTE THIS ARTICLE
Over the years, as a pastor, I have been told by many men of different ages, that they are struggling to stop masturbation and they want my prayers. They have tried and tried and tried to stop. But they just can't! And there is a reason that they cannot stop! It's because it's natural and is NOT wrong. It's a very real need. I write this article to help deliver men from the bondage of traditional religious legalism. It's a horrible bondage that oppresses men and attempts to suppress masculine feelings and masculine physical needs. This oppression must stop! Religious people need to stop forcing made up doctrines down our throats! FIND THE BIBLE VERSE that teaches that it's a sin! FIND IT! It doesn't exist!
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